LOVE

If you experience a feeling of pleasantness in the company of another person that has nothing to do with attraction or liking or stirring of the speed and strength of your mental force, you have passive effortless love for that person.
If in addition you say and do things that generate a pleasant feeling in yourself and the other person and that can only be if there is no use of force to prolong, change speed and strength of force and what is said and done is true and beneficial, that too is part of the love experience.
THE PASSIVE EXPERIENCE OF PLEASANTNESS IN THE COMPANY OF THE PERSON AND THE COMMUNICATION OF WORDS AND DEEDS THAT ARE TRUE, UNDECEPTIVE, BENEFICIAL AND FREE FROM FORCE MAY BE WHAT LOVE IS ALL ABOUT.
Not Love:
If the thought or presence of a person does not give rise to a passive feeling of pleasantness (but gives rise to unpleasant or neither pleasant nor pleasant feeling) or what you say or do to him and what he says or does to you give you an unpleasant or neutral feeling, then you have no love for him or her.
As soon as force intrudes into the picture in the form of liking or disliking or emotions (excitement, lust) or using unnecessary force to prolong, change speed and strength of force, it is no longer love but passion that tires, stresses, make restless and distracts, conditions you to further repeat and degrades your mind.