What Is Love & Compassion?

The wrong views of the Dalai Lama:
Quote: “In the animal world there are fights but in general they live in peace but man does not, we are dissatisfied, we want more and more and that generates stress. If we are full of annoyance, we do not sleep whilst positive emotions like love and compassion not only bring peace but they are also good for the health.”
It is always hazardous to make comparisons between humans and animals unless you can see and know that it is true. The Buddha never made such comparisons but the fact that he said that he cannot think of anything more tormenting than hell and the animal womb indicates that the animal world is a lower destination so how can animals be better or more harmonious than humans?
For one who sees correctly animals are all beset by vocalizations and movements that have constant stretching, changes in speed, direction and strength of force, they can be just as violent as humans so how can they be better than men? Nevertheless just like humans there are individual variations in goodness and badness, discernment and delusion and the fact that animals are less destructive may be because consciousness constraints applying on them are more restrictive limiting their capacities for wretchedness.
By painting a positive picture of animals in general it may lull people to view the animal world positively or desirable when the Buddha said it is a destination of punishment and suffering. It is not that one should look down on animals but animals are not to be viewed as models for behaviour. Mankind has more capacities and avenue for greed because of his cognitive endowments and position as ruler of this world, given the opportunity to exist as humans these same animals may behave just like their human counterparts are doing.
There are no positive and negative emotions and all emotions are false and harmful to the mind and others who receive. The fact that he referred to love and compassion as positive emotions is an unwitting acknowledgment that what he calls love and compassion is emotional; based on force not reason and he may be mistaking lust and desire for love and compassion. Unadulterated love and compassion is a force free reasoned based concern for the welfare and happiness of another person and does not harm or make use of the other person in anyway.
Except for fear, all emotions are based on or derived from like and dislike which all about the stirring in speed and strength of the person’s mental force of going against self that has nothing to do with reason and everything to do with force that causes stress, restlessness and distraction.
Liking is nothing more than the stirring in speed and strength of the force of going against self under the control of the force of self preservation. Like for material object is greed, like for sexual objects is lust, like for self and objects one identify with is pride. Even though it is under the control of the force of self preservation, like still exerts force on the mind causing stress, restlessness and distraction.
Dislike is nothing more than the stirring in speed and strength of the force of going against self out of control of the force of self preservation. Dislike that is diffuse is anger, focussed on a target is hate. Even though it is under the control of the force of self preservation, like still exerts force on the mind causing stress, restlessness and distraction.
Fear is the only emotion caused by the rising in speed and strength of the force of self preservation with a fall in speed and strength of the force of going against self causing the person to withdraw from the source of one’s fear.
Compassion according to the Buddha is never about emotion but an understanding (understanding is never about force but reason or seeing and knowing) by the Buddha on the plight faced by beings ignorantly trapped not just in this world but in existence even in heaven because it is not permanent, as he said, no matter how long, even 60,000 eons or Ages, depending on what he has done, he can go down even to hell or the animal world.
WHAT IS LOVE AND COMPASSION?
THERE IS TRUE AND FALSE COMPASSION. TRUE COMPASSION HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH EMOTION (THAT IS DERIVED FROM FORCE) AND IT IS AN UNDERSTANDING BASED ON SEEING AND KNOWING, OF THE PLIGHT OF PEOPLE TRAPPED IN EXISTENCE WITH SIN (LOWER REALMS) OR WITHOUT SIN (IN HEAVEN) AND THEN POINTING THE WAY PERMANENTLY OUT OF BONDAGE THAT EXISTS WHERE THEY ARE COMPLETELY IGNORANT ABOUT.
THUS IT REFLECTS TRUE COMPASSION ON MY PART TO POINT OUT TO OTHERS THAT THERE IS A CAUSE FOR THEIR STRESS, RESTLESSNESS, RESTLESSNESS AND DISTRACTION AND IT IS THEIR CONSTANT USE OF FORCE TO STRETCH, CHANGE SPEED, DIRECTION AND STRENGTH OF FORCE AND THERE IS A WAY PERMANENTLY OUT OF STRESS, RESTLESSNESS AND DISTRACTION BY PAYING ATTENTION TO DETECT AND MAKING SUSTAINED EFFORT TO ELIMINATE ALL UNNECESSARY STRETCHING, CHANGING SPEED AND STRENGTH OF FORCE IN ONE’S SPEECH, MOTION, THINKING AND PERCEIVING.
WHAT IS TRUE LOVE? THE BUDDHA SAID THAT CONTACT WITH OBJECTS AND OTHERS RESULTS IN PASSIVE FEELINGS OR SENSATIONS (NOT FORCEFUL EMOTION) THAT CAN ONLY BE PLEASANT, UNPLEASANT OR NEITHER PLEASANT NOR UNPLEASANT THAT LASTS AS LONG AS CONTACT AND ENDS WITH CONTACT. LOVE IS THAT PLEASANT PASSIVE FEELING EXPERIENCED BY A BENEVOLENT BEING ON SEEING THE OTHER LOVED PERSON HAPPY AND SECURE, NOT SUFFERING.
THUS THE DALAI LAMA EXHIBITS CONFUSION IN HIS THINKING REGARDING THE NATURE OF EMOTIONS, LOVE AND COMPASSION.
Love is a feeling and compassion is helping others:
Love is just a passive pleasant feeling for the loved person and because it is force free it is not stressful, restless nor distracting for the lover and the loved. Thus if after ‘loving’ the person you experience exhaustion, stress, restlessness and inability to concentrate, it is not love but lust or possessiveness.
If you let your yes be yes only love is a pleasant feeling for the other person and not doing or saying things that harm the person but doing or saying things that benefit him or her but if you do not let your yes be yes only but you perceive more, it is emotional, indescribable, earth shaking and out of this world experience.
Compassion the reason based willingness to help others in trouble or suffering by doing or saying things that benefit them or help them get out of suffering.
Working out the nature of love:
If love is true and exists it must be fully understandable and clearly definable. Only something that is simple and straightforward (not complicated and convoluted) can be fully understood and defined. Hence love must be something simple, straight forward and easy to understand. Love must be free from force because force has no meaning, is not understandable and merely acts blindly as directed and has strength, speed and duration. Anything that has force cannot be understood because force has no meaning and is harmful to the person and its target. Thus true love must be free of force and because like and dislike and emotions are derived from force, it must be free from like or dislike and emotion.
Because love is true and exists (otherwise Jesus is speaking of something false when he said if you love him) it is understandable and definable.
Love is about a relationship or interaction between beings and therefore if love exists and is true it must be something that can be communicated between two beings.
What are the things that can possibly be transmitted between beings?
Force can be transmitted between beings. Because force is blind, it only has speed, strength, direction and duration and only acts as directed, it is harmful to self and the other person, love cannot contain force or has anything to do with force.
Feelings that are passive that can only be pleasant, unpleasant, neither pleasant nor unpleasant and lasts as long as contact can be transmitted on contact between beings and because it is passive, free from force, it does not tire, stress, make restless or distracted the person and his recipient. Love must be good and pleasant otherwise Jesus and the Buddha will not recommend it to you. Therefore feeling of pleasantness must be a prime candidate as the basis if not entire nature of love.
Apart from force or passive feelings only thoughts (speech) and deeds by body can be transmitted between beings and although thoughts, spoken words and deeds do contribute to love, these activities cannot be at the heart of love because thoughts, speech and deeds are varied and variable, not constant. Thus thoughts, speech and deeds that are true or genuine and benefit both parties and have a minimal transmission of force in being constant in speed and strength without prolonging play an important part in constituting love but they are not love itself which is essentially a passive feeling of pleasantness experienced and shared in the company of each other.
BECAUSE LOVE IS SOMETHING BETWEEN THE RELATIONSHIP OF PEOPLE TO BE TRUE IT MUST BE SOMETHING TRANSMISSIBLE BETWEEN PEOPLE AND THAT CAN ONLY BE FORCE, FEELING OR SOMETHING IN THE NATURE OF WHAT IS SPOKEN OR DONE.
BECAUSE LOVE IS SUPPOSED TO BE TRUE, GOOD AND WONDERFUL, IT MUST BE SHORN OF FORCE AND WHAT IS SHORN OF FORCE MUST BE PASSIVE AND ONLY A FEELING OF PLEASANTNESS CAN BE PASSIVE AND WONDERFUL. THIS FEELING OF PLEASANTNESS MUST BE GENERATED BY SPEECH AND ACTIONS THAT ARE TRUE AND GOOD AND FREE OF UNNECESSARY FORCE THAT CAN ONLY COME ABOUT IF THE SPEECH AND ACTIONS ARE FREE OF UNNECESSARY FORCEFUL PROLONGING, CHANGES IN SPEED AND STRENGTH OF FORCE.
HENCE LOVE CAN ONLY BE AND IS THE PASSIVE EFFORTLESS MUTUAL EXPERIENCE OF PLEASANTNESS THAT HAS NO STRENGTH OR DEPTH (BECAUSE IT HAS NO FORCE) THAT OCCURS BY ITSELF ON CONTACT IN THE COMPANY OF TWO OR MORE INDIVIDUALS AND IS IN ADDITION GENERATED BY THE EXCHANGE OF WORDS AND DEEDS THAT ARE TRUE AND BENEFIT BOTH THAT CAN ONLY OCCUR IF THE WORDS AND DEEDS DO NOT CONVEY UNNECESSARY FORCEFUL PROLONGING, FORCEFUL CHANGES IN SPEED, DIRECTION AND STRENGTH OF FORCE.
Because ordinary people are constantly liking and disliking, constantly using force to prolong, change speed and loudness in whatever they perceive, think, speak and do it precludes them from loving and they have never experienced true love except in their delusion that they can and have done.
To ordinary people who wax lyrical about love, it is something mystical, indefinable and exhilarating and they have found and experienced it but the truth may be that true love is simple, a mutual feeling of pleasantness free of stress, restlessness and distraction shared in the company of each other and they have not experienced it.
Working out the nature of compassion:
Compassion is simply helping or assisting others.
(If compassion is just or mostly an emotion or feeling in your mind, how can that help others? You can transmit your emotion of ‘compassion’ to others but because it is emotional, it stresses, make restless and distract so what kind of compassion is this that harms others? Therefore true compassion cannot be a mood or state or emotion of the mind and you are deluded if you perceive so)
False compassion is something much talked about, preached, hyped or exalted by those who are goats in sheepskin and is driven by emotion and false or faulty reasoning that is often for show to impress and harms self and others rather than truly help.
True compassion is something that is little talked about, not exalted by those who are true sheep and is guided by reason shorn of emotion that beings including animals are suffering and need help, is not for show to impress and truly completely benefits self and the recipient. The truly compassionate person just helps others in words and deeds without any fuss and does not beat his drum about his helping others nor wax lyrical about compassion in general or particular.
The for show emotional compassionate person cannot find enough and right words to describe compassion and keeps talking about it and if you examine what he has said and done in the name of compassion it is found seriously wanting and even harmful to himself and others.
The wise person just helps others and do not talk much if anything about it.
The foolish person talks much or preaches much about helping others but does little or even does misguided things that do not help but harm himself and others.

The true Buddha seldom spoke of compassion and what is important to him are virtue (not stealing, lying, killing, no intoxicants), discernment (seeing things as they truly are), wisdom (perceiving, thinking, doing and saying the right things and a vast store of right knowledge), concentration and equanimity (neither liking nor disliking).

Compassion is not part of the noble eightfold path declared by the Buddha (namely right view, right resolve, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness, right concentration)

Compassion is not one of the seven treasures the Buddha described which are conviction, virtue, conscience, concern, listening, generosity, discernment.

Thus although you must be compassionate, help others, you must just do and not beat the drum about it and it must be based purely on true reason not emotion and false reasoning.
It is impossible for a person who likes to smile, laugh, crack and appreciate jokes to be compassionate because smiling and joking are false and stresses self and others so what compassion or helping others is he talking about?
It is impossible for a person with style or who always uses force to prolong, change speed, direction and strength of force in whatever he perceives, thinks, speaks and does to be compassionate because his style or constant use of unnecessary force that is for show is harmful to himself and others, so what compassion or helping others is he talking about?
Still it does not stop deluded people and hypocrites from talking about and waxing lyrical about being compassionate.
Compassion is a nice big word for helping others and helping others is what you do without thinking or being conscious about it and you do not go about talking about helping others and how wonderful it is but you just do it, you just be compassionate. Anyone who is constantly beset by stress, restlessness and distraction cannot be truly compassionate because he must harbour resentment, even lashing out against himself and others.
The Buddha: "'This Dhamma (teaching) is for one who is modest, not self-aggrandizing.' There is the case where a monk, being modest, does not want it to be known that 'He is modest.' Being content, he does not want it to be known that 'He is content.' Being reclusive, he does not want it to be known that 'He is reclusive.' His mindfulness being established, he does not want it to be known that 'His mindfulness is established.' Being endowed with discernment, he does not want it to be known that 'He is endowed with discernment.' Enjoying non-complication, he does not want it to be known that 'He is enjoying non-complication.'
Thus the true noble person is compassionate but he does not want to be known to be compassionate. Hence if you want to be known to be compassionate you are a hypocrite beating your own drum and the drum of compassion that may not be the real thing.
A Buddha cannot love but can be compassionate:
It is impossible for a Buddha to love because he said he has cut all ties and attachments to feelings but it is possible for a Buddha to be compassionate, to understand the plight of beings trapped in suffering and existence and point the way that exist out of suffering and endless existing.
WHAT I SAY HERE AND EVERYWHERE ELSE MAY BE RUBBISH BUT NO OTHER MAN TODAY OR IN THE PAST CAN AND WILL SAY WHAT I SAY. IF WHAT I SAY IS TRUE, MAKE SENSE THEN IT INDICATES I AM AN EXTRAORDINARY PERSON THAT NO OTHER MAN CAN IMITATE AND SO IF YOU SPEAK AGAINST ME (DISAGREE) YOU ARE SPEAKING AGAINST AN EXTRAORDINARY EVEN UNIQUE MAN.