When a thief sees something to steal, he rushes excitedly (not with reason but attraction) to the object and the policeman guarding him must also rush with him there to make sure he does not commit something grievous. When the object is lost the policeman sees no reason to waste his energy to continue to accompany the thief who still foolishly keeps going to the place where the object used to be thinking there is still something to steal and this unaccompanied going by the thief is the basis of the hurt something liked is lost.
Anyone whose mind possesses mental forces must be hurt when someone spits in his presence because his mental force of going against self is automatically stirred by the spitting to rise way above the strength of his force of self preservation exposing his consciousness to unshielded force and that is pain or hurt.
The force of going against self is like a criminal that you invited or allowed into your house or mind. Because he is in your mind and is a criminal, you must employ a policeman, the force of self preservation to guard him. Because the two are separate not Siamese twins, it is not necessary that the policeman will always stick close to the criminal. When the policeman is accompanying him around and he does not do any mischief that is liked but when the policeman accompanies him but struggles or fails to stop him from doing mischief; that is disliked. When the policeman gives up and only observes him from a distance then if the criminal is just mucking around not doing much that is experienced as sadness but if he is actively throwing his weight around that is experienced as hurt. If the policeman should become suddenly alarmed, jumps up and seizes the criminal immobilizing him that is experienced as fear.
If you did not allow the criminal in or got rid of him, something that is possible, you would not have to employ a policeman and will not suffer from like and dislike, sadness, hurt and fear.
If you must have like then you must have dislike, sadness, hurt and fear that will also increasingly condition and degrade your mind and you are headed for final madness that is not the way to heaven.
The Buddha said he was the seer and knower of all, what he taught compared to what he knew by direct seeing is like the few leaves in his hand compared to the leaves in the forest above and he said God is all seeing and all knowing implying that whatever can happen is knowable or understandable.
Whatever exists or can happen can be known and therefore accurately defined as such and such.
Thus if like, dislike, sadness, feeling hurt or grief and fear exist, their natures can be known and defined.
Name: Force of going against self.
Function: The only force that acts on the consciousness and is the drive to whatever the person perceives, thinks, does or says. It resonates with the force changes in the behaviour of others thereby transmitting external forces to the consciousness. Because it acts on the consciousness and force is painful, it causes pain unless shielded by opposite force. It can only prolong, change speed, strength and direction where possible. Apart from pain if unshielded, causes stress on prolonged exposure.
(There may be those who are antagonistic who might argue that who in their right mind would permit harmful force to cohabit their minds. It is not a question of people permitting but they are unwitting slaves or robots of this force of going against self who often think it (emotions, likes and dislikes) are their great friends when they will torment them and finally kill them off and pack them off to eternal perdition. Ignorant and foolish, constantly bombarded by force from others, people permit and cultivate force in their minds to go against themselves in the name of impressing, pleasing, intimidating and dominating others to get what they want, namely sensate pleasures.)
Name: Force of self preservation.
Function: Only force that acts away from the consciousness to oppose the force of going against self shielding consciousness from pain. It is the force that always resists whatever the person perceives, thinks, says or does. It does not cause pain as it always acts away from consciousness but stresses the consciousness on prolonged exposure. It is reactive and usually stirs when force of going against self stirs but on occasions when alarmed can stir sharply on its own or become apathetic, refusing to stir. It can only prolong, change speed, strength and direction where possible.
Name Of Emotion: Like
There is faked liking that is much more common and more stressful than genuine liking because there is forceful conflict when you fake.
Aliases: Interest, fascination, excitement, thrill, greed, lust, eagerness, pride, envy, thirst and hunger.
Dominant Force: force of self preservation.
Disparity of strength: slightly in favour of the force of self preservation.
Characteristics: In genuine liking, the prominent feature is that the person's force of going against self is mostly accelerating in speed and strength in an attractive way whilst prolonging is secondary and itself always also accompanied by accelerating speed and strength of force within the stretched syllable or unit of motion well under the control of the stronger force of self preservation.
Because like is an emotion that has nothing to do with reason, it needs no reason to be transferred and can be transferred to other situations and hence different people have different likes and he can develop new likes or like is infectious.
Pain: Absent because stronger force of self preservation always shields consciousness completely from the pain inducing force of going against self. Stress: Less stressful than disliking but still stressful in proportion to duration and intensity of exposure and exhausting consciousness.
Name: Dislike
There is faked disliking but it is much rarer. Sometimes people fake anger to frighten others or get what they want. Faked dislike is more stressful than genuine disliking because there is forceful conflict when it is faked.
Aliases: Hate, anger, jealousy, disgust, derision, antagonism, boredom, fed up.
Dominant Force: force of going against self.
Disparity of strength: slightly in favour of the force of going against self.
Characteristics: In genuine disliking, the prominent feature is that the person's force of going against self is mostly accelerating in speed and strength in an aggressive way whilst prolonging is secondary and itself always also accompanied by aggressively accelerating speed and strength of force within the stretched syllable or unit of motion poorly under or out of the control of the weaker force of self preservation.
Because dislike is an emotion that has nothing to do with reason, it needs no reason to be transferred and can be transferred to other situations and hence different people have different dislikes and he can develop new dislikes or dislike is infectious.
Pain: Mildly present because only slightly weaker force of self preservation mostly shields consciousness from the pain inducing force of going against self.
Stress: More stressful than liking depending on the duration and intensity of exposure and exhausts consciousness.
AN INDICATION THAT LIKE AND DISLIKE ARE FALSE IS THAT THEY ARE NOT PERMANENT BUT FICKLE, AT THE SAME TIME AS A PERSON LIKES SOMEONE (EG SON) OR OBJECT (FAVORITE TUNE) VERY MUCH HE CAN ALSO HARBOR DISLIKE (EG ANNOYED BY HIS BEHAVIOR OR IN BAD MOOD HE FINDS TUNE IRRITATING) AND REVERSIBLE (LIKE FOR GIRL TURN TO WRATH WHEN JILTED). DIFFERENT PEOPLE HAVE DIFFERENT LIKES AND DISLIKES INDICATING THEY ARE NOT UNIVERSAL BUT INDIVIDUALLY CONDITIONED.
Name Of Emotion: Sadness
Aliases: Melancholy, sentimentality, depression is partly severe unresponsive sadness.
Dominant Force: force of going against self.
Disparity of strength: significantly in favour of the force of going against self.
Characteristics: The force of going against self is mostly prolonging or stretching syllables or units of motion at low speeds. Speed and strength changes within and between syllables or units of motion are less accelerating but more usually decaying as if dying. Sad people stretch their syllables with decaying speed and loudness and they tend to decelerate in speed and loudness between syllables and words.
Reflecting that the force of self preservation is depressed in sadness, the person who is sad loses interest (a form of liking) and fear because you require a dominant force of self preservation in order to be interested or fearful.
Because sadness is an emotion that has nothing to do with reason, it needs no reason to be transferred and can be transferred to other situations and hence different people have different sadnesses and he can develop new sadnesses or sadness is infectious.
Pain: Because the force of self preservation is significantly weaker than the force of going against self it fails to shield the consciousness allowing it to causes a dull pain because the force of going against self is primarily prolonging with slow decaying speed and strength changes rather than aggressive accelerating speed and strength changes.
Stress: Present, proportionate to duration and intensity of exposure.
Name of emotion: Feeling hurt or grief
Aliases: Disappointment, upset
Dominant Force: force of going against self.
Disparity of strength: significantly in favour of the force of going against self.
Characteristics: The much stronger force of going against self is mostly accelerating in speed and strength aggressively rather than prolonging that is itself also accompanied by accelerating speed and strength.
Reflecting that the force of self preservation is depressed in feeling hurt, the person who is hurt loses interest (a form of liking) and fear because you require a dominant force of self preservation in order to be interested or fearful.
Because feeling hurt is an emotion that has nothing to do with reason, it needs no reason to be transferred and can be transferred to other situations and hence different people have different hurts or sensitive spots and he can develop new hurts or hurt is infectious.
Pain: Significant to strongly present as a sharp or searing pain because the much weaker force of self preservation fails to shield the consciousness against the aggressive force of going against self.
Stress: Present, proportionate to duration and intensity of exposure.
Unless a person's mind is centred (possible but not in ordinary people), they will get hurt of someone suddenly spit with violent prolonging, accelerating speed and loudness because they will be caught off guard, the attacking force of the spitting stirs their mental forces of going against self to rise rapidly to be overwhelmingly superior to their forces of self preservation and that causes searing hurt that stir them to want to retaliate.
Whenever the force conveyed in what people said or did is greater than the person’s force of self preservation at that moment, he experiences hurt. Alternatively if the memory triggered by what someone said or did gently stirred his force of going against self greater than his force of self preservation he also experiences hurt.
ANYONE WHO POSSESSES MENTAL FORCE THAT CAN BE STIRRED BY OTHERS MUST GET HURT BY WHAT OTHERS SAY OR DO BECAUSE THEIR FORCES OF SELF PRESERVATION CAN BE CAUGHT OFF GUARD WHEN THEIR FORCES OF GOING AGAINST SELF ARE STIRRED BEYOND THEIR CONTROL BY EXTERNAL PROVOCATIONS TO RISE SUDDENLY MUCH STRONGER THAN THEIR FORCE OF SELF PRESERVATION EXPOSING THEIR CONSCIOUSNESS TO UNSHIELDED FORCE AND THENCE HURT. IN ADDITION WHAT OTHERS SAY OR DO GENTLY CAN STIR HURT IF THEY BRING IRRESISTIBLE MEMORY OF HURT.
Because liking is always the force of self preservation rising to control the force of self preservation on perceiving a liked person, when a loved one (actually liked one) is lost, the consciousness experiences hurt because his force of self preservation no longer rises to control his force of going against self that still gets stirred on perceiving the lost liked person and that now unshielded rising force of going against self now causes hurt.
When a thief sees something to steal, he rushes excitedly to the object and the policeman guarding him must also rush with him there to make sure he does not commit a crime. When the object is lost the policeman sees no reason to waste his energy to continue to accompany the thief who still foolishly keeps going to the place where the object used to be thinking there is still something to steal and this unaccompanied going by the thief is the basis of the hurt when a liked object is lost.
THEREFORE IF YOU MUST LIKE, YOU MUST BE ATTRACTED TO OR ATTACHED TO OBJECTS, YOU MUST GET HURT BECAUSE WITH THE LOSS OF THE LIKED OBJECT YOUR FORCE OF SELF PRESERVATION NO LONGER STIRS BUT YOUR FORCE OF GOING AGAINST SELF CONTINUES TO BE STIRRED EXPOSING YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS TO UNPROTECTED FORCE TO CAUSE HURT.
NOT ONLY IS GETTING HURT ALWAYS PAINFUL, IT HAS MEMORY AND INCREASES IN INTENSITY, EASE OF AROUSAL AND DIFFICULTY IN SHEDDING WITH CONDITIONING, IT DEGRADES THE MIND AND THE PERSON WHO IS REGULARLY GETTING HURT IS HEADING FOR THE CLIFF OF DOOM DOWN WHICH HE MUST JUMP. IF YOU DON’T TURN BACK BY STOP LIKING, STOP SMILING, YOU ARE MAKING A BET I AM WRONG.
Name of emotion: Fear
Aliases: Alarm, panic, stunned, shocked, horror.
Dominant Force: force of self preservation.
Disparity of strength: significantly in favour of the force of self preservation.
Characteristics: The force of self preservation is accelerating rapidly in speed and strength without prolonging to a strength that is significantly greater than the force of going against self that is plunging in speed and strength.
Fear causes the person to become hesitant, to stop what he is perceiving, thinking, saying and doing and want to run away because the now dominant force of self preservation always opposes the force of going against self that drives all the person's activities. Because his force of self preservation is rising rapidly in speed and strength in recurrent cycles, fear makes him restless.
Because fear is an emotion that has nothing to do with reason, it needs no reason to be transferred and can be transferred to other situations and hence different people have different fears and he can develop new fears or fear is infectious.
Pain: Not present because force of self preservation dominant and acts away from consciousness.
Stress: Present, proportionate to duration and intensity of exposure.
Emotions like excitement, interest, envy, pride, eagerness, greed, lust, thirst and hunger are derivatives of like in specific situations.
Emotions like boredom, disgust, derision, jealousy, antagonism, hate and anger are derivatives of dislike.
Shame is the emotion that is essentially a loss of pride allowing dislike of self associated with feeling hurt to arise.
Jealousy in partly feeling hurt associated with dislike for a person as a result of his desirable attributes or possessions.
When dislike is diffuse it is anger, when it is focussed or targeted it is hate. Like directed inwards is pride and like attracted outwards is greed (material things) & lust (sexual things).
WHATEVER IS TRUE SHOULD APPLY TO EVERYONE. DIFFERENT PEOPLE HAVE DIFFERENT LIKES, DISLIKES, SORROWS, HURTS AND FEARS WITH DIFFERENT INTENSITIES INDICATING THAT THEY ARE NOT UNIVERSAL BUT INDIVIDUALLY CONDITIONED, FALSE AND SUFFERING NEVER ENJOYABLE TO OWN.
IT IS PEOPLE'S LIKES AND DISLIKES, THEIR EMOTIONS THAT ARE DERIVATIVES OF LIKE AND DISLIKE, THEIR SADNESS, FEELING HURT AND FEARS THAT DOMINATE THEIR LIVES AND WHAT AND HOW THEY PERCEIVE, THINK, SPEAK AND DO ARE PRERECORDED AND REHASHED FROM THEIR MENTAL JUKEBOXES, WHATEVER GENUINE REASON THEY HAVE IS RUDIMENTARY, WHAT THEY CALL THEIR REASONING ARE GENERALIZATIONS AND PRINCIPLES BORROWED OR COPIED FROM OTHERS INTO THEIR MENTAL DICTIONARY OF MEANINGS THAT THEY CONSULT WHEN FACED WITH SITUATIONS REQUIRING REASONING. WHAT MOTIVATES THEM IS SENSATE PLEASURES AND MATERIAL GAINS FOR WHICH THEY PRACTICE STYLE IN WHAT AND HOW THEY SAY OR DO IN THE NAME OF IMPRESSING, PLEASING, INTIMIDATING AND DOMINATING OTHERS. BECAUSE THEY ARE CONSTANTLY REHASHING, THEY ARE MERELY OVERRATED DISC JOCKEYS DECIDING WHAT TUNES TO PLAY AND CHANGE AND VOYEURS EXPERIENCING WHAT THEIR JUKEBOXES DISHES OUT.
(Just as there are many who cannot read or write or even add, there are many who have reasoning that are actually copied from others or are virus software installed by others and what true reasoning that exist in them are rudimentary)
A PERSON'S STYLE WHICH IS ALWAYS PRESENT AND CONSISTENT IS NOTHING MORE THAN THE REGURGITATED WAY WITH WHICH HE USES FORCE TO PROLONG, CHANGE SPEED, STRENGTH OF FORCE AND EVEN DIRECTION IN WHATEVER HE PERCEIVES (SEES, HEARS) THINKS, SPEAKS AND DOES IN THE NAME OF IMPRESSING, PLEASING, INTIMIDATING AND DOMINATING OTHERS.
HIS USE OF FORCE TO FABRICATE STYLE IS THE SOURCE OF THE EMOTIONS, STRESS, RESTLESSNESS AND DISTRACTION THAT HE EXPERIENCES WHICH IN TURN COMPEL HIM TO CONTINUE TO BE STYLISH. STYLE THAT CONSTANTLY NEED FORCE TO FABRICATE CAUSES STRESS THAT THEN SEIZES HIM TO CONTINUE TO USE FORCE TO BE STYLISH IN A VICIOUS CIRCLE HE DOES BELIEVE WILL END IN HELL.
STRESS THAT THEY MUST REGULARLY SUFFER FROM IS JUST THE PAINFUL SEIZURE BY FORCE OF THEIR MINDS AND BODIES THAT TAKES TIME TO SUBSIDE AS A RESULT OF THEIR HEEDLESS CONSTANT SUBJECTING THEMSELVES TO FORCE.
THEIR RESTLESSNESS REFLECT EPISODIC LOSS OF CONTROL OF THE CONSTANT FORCE CHANGES IN SPEED AND STRENGTH IN THEIR STYLES AND THEIR SAYING AND DOING OF UNNECESSARY THINGS TO IMPRESS, PLEASE, DOMINATE AND INTIMIDATE OTHERS.
THEIR DISTRACTION OR INABILITY TO CONCENTRATE OR ASSMILIATE WHAT IS HAPPENING IS THE RESULT OF THEIR CONSTANT SIMULTANEOUS SUBSTANCE AND STYLE THAT DIVIDES OR SCATTERS THEIR CONCENTRATION.
THEY SOMETIMES SIGH TO SAY LIFE IS MEANINGLESS. THEY SHOULD LOOK THEMSELVES IN THE MIRROR AND SEE WHY BECAUSE THEY NEVER SAY OR DO WHAT THEY MEAN AND NEVER MEAN WHAT THEY SAY OR DO.
Evidence of weak force of self preservation in getting hurt:
When a person is hurt it is impossible for him to like but it is very easy for him to dislike even to an extent of loss of control.
For instance if a person is spat at, he experiences hurt and thus stirred he may become uncontrollably angry to want to retaliate even violently but it is impossible for him to like anything until his hurt subsides. The reason this is so is that when he is hurt his force of self preservation is significantly lower than his force of going against self that is actively stirring in speed and strength impacting unshielded on his consciousness to cause searing pain and this situation make it impossible to like because like requires a strong force of self preservation that is controlling the force of going against self but it is ideal for experiencing anger, a form of dislike where the force of going against self is out of control of the force of self preservation.
If the feeling hurt is not very strong, the person can hide his hurt and even fake liking it by artificially forcing his force of self preservation to rise in strength but this is faked and easily detected by those who are discerning. However if the feeling hurt is very intense it is impossible to fake liking for what happened because the discrepancy in strength in favour of the force of going against self is too steep for the person to push up his force of self preservation to disguise his hurt.
TO FABRICATE 'LIKE' YOU NEED A DOMINANT FORCE OF SELF PRESERVATION AND THIS IS DIFFICULT IN GETTING HURT BECAUSE IT IS WEAK.
TO FABRICATE ANGER YOU NEED A STRONG AND ACTIVELY CHANGING IN SPEED AND STRENGTH FORCE OF GOING AGAINST SELF WHICH IS ALREADY IN PLACE IN GETTING HURT.
THUS THE FACT THAT IT IS VERY EASY FOR PEOPLE WHO FEEL HURT TO BECOME EVEN VERY ANGRY WHILST IT IS VERY DIFFICULT IF NOT IMPOSSIBLE FOR THEM TO FAKE LIKING WHEN THEY ARE INTENSELY HURT INDICATES THAT IN FEELING HURT THERE IS A SIGNIFICANT DISPARITY IN STRENGTH BETWEEN THE FORCES OF GOING AGAINST SELF & SELF PRESERVATION FAVORING THE FORCE OF GOING AGAINST SELF WHICH IS ACTIVELY CHANGING IN SPEED AND STRENGTH TO CAUSE SEARING PAIN.
The difference between dislike and getting hurt: Whilst one can get angry or hate oneself, it is attacking usually at external targets whilst getting hurt is about sharp pain felt, not attacking oneself or others. Dislike is stressful but it is much less painful that getting hurt because although the mental force of going against self may rise to great strength and speed, it is being tracked by an overworked force of self preservation that isn't far behind and still shielding the consciousness from the blows of the force of going against self whilst in getting hurt the force of self preservation is lagging significantly and not shielding the consciousness against the force of going against self that is changing in speed and strength aggressively.
Four ways to get hurt:
There are four ways people get hurt, no matter how tough they think they are:
First is loss of liked object. When you like something, your force of self preservation must rise to match the rise of going against self when you perceive that object. When the object is lost, the force of self preservation sees no reason to stir and the unaccompanied stirring of the force of going against self exposes the consciousness to naked force and pain or hurt.
Secondly, the consciousness experiences hurt when the force in the way people say or do things exceed significantly their force of self preservation to subject their consciousness to excess unshielded force and pain. If the force in a spit is stronger than your force of self preservation then, you experience hurt.
Thirdly, even if something is said or done to them gently, the memory of hurt is triggered by what they said or did and cause hurt to well up.
Fourthly, their forces of self preservation are constantly harassed even to their limits and occasionally this force throws in the towel and refuses to be stirred and then the consciousness is exposed to pain or hurt. When tired or stressed, the person is more easily hurt.
Just liked also hurt:
If you just knew a girl yesterday and you liked her very much, news of her demise will hurt you because your like for her is recorded in your mind or mental jukebox and news of her demise will hurt you, make you sad because your force of self preservation will now not rise when your force of going against self stirs to like her.
Fun & Funny Is Liking:
Having fun or seeing the funny side of things is seeing the liking side of things, joking is faking liking the misery of others or the falsity of something. Smiling is to express genuine or faked like.
Thus if you must have smile, you must have fun, must joke, must the see the funny side of things, you must get hurt and it is the hurt that lasts, even for an eternity whilst the fun lasts as long as it lasts.
Want to be all seeing or a fish?
Which do you prefer, a fish swimming in the ocean or an all seeing formless being without any woes of a body seeing everything and enjoying bliss for two eons?
The Buddha said he was all seeing and all knowing and what he taught compared to what he knows is like the few leaves in his hand compared to the leaves in the forest above.
The first crucial step to become all seeing is to stop thinking and just see and hear. Then it is neither see nor not see. But people in this world are infatuated by their thinking, they think they are such great thinkers and by thinking they can work out everything and what this world is about. Thus trapped, they see very little and see up the wrong trees.
No one has told you this and now I have and it is up to you that the Buddha said it is possible for a being to be conscious to see everything without entertaining a single thought. Thus if you are wise you will learn to curtail your thinking rather than pursue or be infatuated with your thinking by meditating to calm yourself. Without calming your mind you cannot stop thinking and then from thinking with constant forceful prolonging, changes in speed and loudness that have momentum that is impossible to stop, you think without unnecessary force that is much easier to stop, you progress from dingdong silly thinking to orderly goal orientated thinking to finally put a stop to all thinking and just watch.
IT IS EMOTION & THE FORCEFUL PROLONGING, CHANGING SPEED AND STRENGTH OF FORCE IN THEIR THOUGHTS THAT HAVE MOMENTUM THAT CAUSE THEM SLEEPLESS NIGHTS. THE BUDDHA SAID IT IS POSSIBLE TO JUST SEE WITHOUT THINKING AND IT IS THE WAY TO TWO EONS IN HEAVEN. THUS YOU ARE A FOOL TO BE INFATUATED WITH YOUR THINKING, TO WANT OTHERS TO BE IMPRESSED BY YOUR INTELLECT.
The top dog:
It is never their reason but motivated by a need for sensate gratification and to show off, to please, impress, intimidate and dominate other, their emotions, likes and dislikes, sadness, hurts and fears determine what ordinary people see, hear or do not see or hear, think or do not think, speak or do not speak.
Driven by the emotions, they act as overrated conceited disc jockeys who select the appropriate things to say or do and find reasons from their mental libraries of explanations to rationalize things or give excuses.
The conundrum:
When you can see everything you do not need to think because what is there to think when you can see everything there is?
It is because you cannot see everything that you need to think but as a result of thinking, it is impossible for you to see everything because a person who sees everything does not need to think because he saw.
Not a conundrum:
There are no conundrums, puzzles or mysteries because everything is knowable and understandable.
A person who sees everything does not need to think and a person who thinks cannot see everything.
Why is that so?
The reason is that no one can fabricate or do more than one thing at a time, when people are seeing, thinking and speaking at the same time it is an illusion because his speaking and thinking and seeing is rehashed by rote without attention or his consciousness is rapidly switching between the three fabrications only taking snapshots of each.
When a Buddha eats he does not speak and when he speaks he does not eat indicating that a person can only mindfully or LIVE specific to that occasion do only one thing. If he eats as he speaks, he is regurgitating either one or both from memory and only paying attention to both or neither intermittently.
Thus when a person thinks, he must press the pause button of his seeing whilst he attends to his thinking and because the world waits for no one, whilst he thinks the world is passing him by and therefore he cannot see everything.
A PERSON WHO APPEARS TO SEE, THINK AND SPEAK AT THE SAME TIME IS RENDERING ALL BY ROTE MINDLESSLY WITH AT MOST INTERMITTENT ATTENTION TO EACH ACTIVITY. PAYING ATTENTION TO EACH ACTIVITY IS DIFFERENT FROM FABRICATING EACH LIVE SPECIFIC FOR THAT MOMENT. A PERSON CAN ONLY FABRICATE ONE ACTIVITY LIVE WITHOUT REHASHING AND SO IF HE IS THINKING AND PERCEIVING HE MUST SWITCH BETWEEN BOTH INTERMITTENTLY. PERCEIVING IS THE MOST PRIMARY ACTIVITY AND SO BY DROPPING ALL COARSER FABRICATIONS LIKE THINKING, SPEAKING AND DOING, THE BEING MERELY PERCEIVES.
Disliking Never Caused Hurt:
Whatever is disliked is never welcomed and the loss of what is not welcome never hurts anybody but it is welcomed.
The loss of what you hated or what makes you angry or filled you with disgust never hurts the person but is greeted with delight or like.
HENCE THE LOSS OF WHAT IS DISLIKED NEVER HURT ANYBODY AND IT IS ONLY THE LOSS OF WHAT IS LIKED, ATTACHED TO, FOND OF AND ATTRACTED TO THAT CAUSES HURT AND GRIEF.
Thus no matter how good you think you are, how much you insist you like to like, if what I say is true and the Buddha also said so, if you must like you must get hurt even to the extent of uncontrollable weeping and afterwards if you think you are going to heaven, you may be right or deluded.
Nervousness:
All emotional people must suffer from attacks of nervousness or trembling which although may be associated with restlessness, is different.
Nervousness are involuntary (although it can be faked by actors) episodes that reflect loss of control of the forceful conflict between the force of going against self that drives all their fabrications (perceiving, thinking, saying and doing) and the style in their fabrications (stretching, changing of speed, strength and direction where possible) and the force of self preservation that always resist. This conflict is always present but usually suppressed and associated with shame and it reflects conflict too intense to be suppressed, a situation that the person finds too intimidating or he is tired and stressed to keep a lid on his forceful conflict or tension that he becomes nervous (twitchy, trembling or shaking, hesitant, restless).
ALL STYLISH PEOPLE MUST BE NERVOUS ALTHOUGH TOUGH GOATS CONCEAL AND DENY IT VERY WELL BUT ONE WHO IS DISCERNING CAN DETECT TELL TALE SIGNS OF NERVOUSNESS THAT MAY ESCAPE THOSE WHO ARE THEMSELVES PREOCCUPIED AND DISTRACTED.
NERVOUSNESS MUST NOT BE CONFUSED WITH RESTLESSNESS ALTHOUGH RESTLESSNESS ALWAYS ACCOMPANIES NERVOUSNESS. NERVOUSNESS OR JITTERINESS IS THE EXPERIENCE OF ANYONE WHO FORCIBLY GO AGAINST THEMSELVES TO SAY OR DO THINGS DISHONESTLY TO PLEASE OR IMPRESS OTHERS OVERRIDING SELF RESISTANCE THAT SOMETIMES CAN WELL UP TOO STRONGLY SO THAT THE CLASH IS TOO INTENSE TO SUPPRESS.
Mental blocks:
All stylish people must suffer from episodic mental blocks when they forget what they wanted to say or do and get flustered. This is partly because whatever they say or do is mindless, regurgitated and sometimes there is a block in streaming, the flow of the program that determines what and how they want to say or do something is interrupted eg by emotion or tiredness or the resistance by their forces of self preservation which always there sometimes rise inappropriately to too great a strength as to block what they want to say or do.
IT IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR A BUDDHA OR A PERSON WHOSE SPEECH AND DEEDS ARE FRESHLY COMPOSED FOR THE OCCASION, WHO IS NOT GOING AGAINST HIMSELF IN WHAT HE SAYS OR DOES AND THEREFORE HAVE NO INHERENT FORCEFUL CONFLICT IN THEIR MINDS TO SUFFER MENTAL BLOCKS.
STAMMERING IS AN INDICATION THERE IS MENTAL BLOCK BY THE STRONG FORCE OF SELF PRESERVATION TO WHAT THE PERSON WANTS TO SAY.
Paying full attention is not fabricating live:
If what you said is rehashed, there is a copy of it in your mental jukebox then even if you paid 100% attention to it throughout it is not a live fabrication but still a stale rehash. Only when you synthesized it live for the occasion is it live fabricate and for that to happen the person cannot be simultaneously perceiving, thinking, speaking and doing.
PAYING TOTAL ATTENTION THROUGHOUT THE DURATION OF WHAT YOU SAID THAT CAME FROM A COPY THAT EXISTS IN YOUR MENTAL JUKEBOX IS JUST PERFECT VOYEURISM, IT IS NOT SAME AS FRESH LIVE ATTENTIVELY SPECIFICALLY FABRICATING IT WITHOUT A COPY IN THE MENTAL JUKEBOX.
Thoroughly deluded:
I saw an article in the newspapers describing the restless leg syndrome that afflicts a lot of people from the high to low classes and it seems especially at night its sufferers experience paraesthesia and the urge to keep moving their legs, they went on to describe treatments that I did not bother to read.
If the treatments cured the syndrome it would not exist anymore, if they did not cure the syndrome, merely suppress or attenuate the symptoms then there are merely props and even delaying the inevitable.
I do not suffer from restless legs or any form of restlessness and so long as you must constantly change speed and strength of force in what you perceive, think, speak and do, so long must you suffer restlessness of which restless legs is one specific manifestation.
Why do these people who earnestly study this syndrome not realize that they themselves have constant forceful changes in their motion and speech that is the cause to their restlessness? They are barking up the wrong tree and deluded, it is wrong view that is the way to hell or the animal womb according to the Buddha.
It is never an accident why they are deluded but it is because they are not very good people driven by ill will that is often disguised so that they believe their stylish niceness is their goodness and they are blameless and therefore their restless legs are blameless part and parcel of living instead of their sins of which what they are aware is like the tip of the iceberg.
The force struggling most in tiredness & stress:
The force of self preservation is the one that tires most and want to give up when the person becomes tired or stressed or the person is pushed to the extreme of his acting or putting on a show envelop.
The force of going against self usually wants the show to go on come what may and it is this discrepancy that causes hurt and sadness to emerge when the person becomes tired or stressed because their force of self preservation cannot be mustered further and the force of going against self is given free rein.
Thus no matter how tough a goat you are, fear of loss of your usual immaculate control must lurk in you that should you become too exhausted or stressed or you are stoked by others beyond your performance envelop, you will break and make a fool of yourself.
Lesser goats feel quite comfortable in this world when they are not in the spotlight or there are few acting demands but when they are threatened, their feeble forces of self preservation cannot cope and they become tongue tied or frozen.
AL ACTORS NO MATTER SUAVE MUST HAVE A DREAD OR FEAR THAT THEY TRY TO HIDE THAT THEY MIGHT BE PUSHED BEYOND THEIR ACTING LIMITS AND BECOME INCOHERENT OR MAKE A FOOL OF THEMSELVES AND ONE DAY THEY WILL. SO GOOD LUCK TO YOU WHO WILL NOT GIVE UP ACTING OR STYLE.
What is nervousness?
Nervousness occurs in situations that may be recurrent in the person in which he wants to say or do something and there is hesitancy that reaches intense proportions.
It can be stage fright. When he is rehearsing it or saying it in private to his loved ones he is not nervous but when he has to say it on stage he becomes nervous or there is excruciating hesitancy that he may make a fool of himself.
This is an indication that whatever they say or do is forced, driven by force with self resistance (from the force of self preservation) that usually can be easily overcome but in threatening situations (eg on stage) the force of self preservation rises tremendously because of fear and now becomes a formidable barrier to say the thing.
When you are stealing something minor and you are used to it, you may not be nervous but if you now committing a bank robbery with a lot at stake and you may get killed, you will be more nervous because of fear.
Nervousness is old fashioned fear:
Nervousness is just a fancy name for fear. When you are saying or doing something the umpteen time, it becomes very slick and the force of self preservation that is always there is just steamrolled through but there may be occasions like on stage or it is a big event that fear stirs, essentially your force of self preservation rises significantly above its usual strength when you say and you become nervous.
THUS NERVOUSNESS IS OLD FASHIONED FEAR ARISING IN THINGS YOU USUALLY SAY OR DO THAT DO NOT AROUSE FEAR.
Hence ordinary people severely underestimate the occurrence of emotions in their lives. What they call nervousness is fearfulness.
When they say they are hopeful or optimistic, they are saying they are looking to the future with like. When they say they are pessimistic, they mean they are looking forward to the future with dislike.
Fear with regard to your fabrications:
Nervousness is stirring fear that threatens loss of control with regarding to what you want to say or do in a specific situation. Nervousness is fear threatening to go out of control but not yet.
A person may experience nervousness when he enters a dark alley not because of the alley itself but his action in entering the alley instead of not doing exposes him to danger of being mugged.
Fear is a general emotion whenever a situation that does not necessarily relate to your fabrications causes your force of self preservation to rise strongly and your force of going against self to plunge.
For instance a sudden earthquake or explosion has nothing to do with what you want to do but what has happened independent of you that threatens.
Fierceness:
When people speak of someone being fierce, he is not speaking of him being angry or disliking and so fierceness must be something other than disliking or anger. It is being aggressive, forceful or attacking or provoking.
There is a state of mind called ‘ill will’ that encompasses fierceness or aggressiveness, attacking, provoking, toughness, strength, competitiveness, combativeness, being quarrelsome, antagonism to stubbornness that is apart from liking and disliking, sadness, getting hurt and fear.
A person's fierceness may be all about how much force he uses when he fabricates (perceives, thinks, speaks and does things, his maximal capacity for force or violence and the rapidity with which his forcefulness can accelerate. The more force he uses the fiercer he is.
Stubbornness is a form of aggressiveness in which a person uses force to resist change or stand his ground irrationally. When you forcefully maintain a course of action that harms yourself and others, you are stubborn, when you use reason to maintain a course of action that benefits you (eg not to get angry when provoked) you are persistent.
When a motorist or motorcyclist is revving his vehicle violently at the traffic lights he is usually not disliking but exercising his aggressiveness or fierceness that conditions himself to be aggressive, namely his strength of fierceness becomes increasingly stronger, easier to arouse and harder to dissipate and he is headed for torment thence loss of control and ruin.
How does a person become fierce?
You have to use force in order to become fierce, aggressive, attacking, antagonistic and stubborn. Without using force you cannot be fierce or have ill will.
You can be fierce in the substance of what you say or do that attacks others with force eg cut off someone’s head or spit at him or scold him and you can be fierce in the way you do things or your style.
(You may scold someone because you dislike him or what he has done but it is not necessarily so but scolding is just verbally attacking someone that is separate from disliking him)
People are never part time fierce (aggressive) but they are full time fierce or aggressive because they constantly use unnecessary force to prolong, change speed, strength of force and even direction where possible in whatever they perceive, think, speak and do in the name of intimidating or dominating others.
The use of force to stretch your syllables, change speed and loudness is not your emotion but it is your style of speech and as a result of your style or use of force to stretch, change speed and loudness you generate emotions (like or dislike, sadness, hurt or fear).
Thus a person’s ill will (fierceness, aggressiveness) causes him to constantly or generally use force that is unnecessary to stretch, change speed and strength of force (also called his style) in whatever he perceives, thinks, speaks and does and specifically to attack others verbally and physically (spit at someone or punch him) and as a result of this use of force that is constant, he experiences emotions.
What is the relationship between fierceness and a person’s emotions (likes & dislikes, hurt, sadness and fears)?
You cannot be fierce unless you use force that is unnecessary and excessive and for show to intimidate and dominate. Because all use of force impacts on the person’s consciousness as pain if unshielded, the person’s desire to use force necessitates the presence of another opposite mental force to shield his consciousness from the impact of force and it is the tango between these two forces or the constant power struggle between the two that give rise to all the emotions.
Using force to stretch syllables, change speed and loudness is itself not an emotion but it is aggressiveness and as a result of using force to stretch, change speed and loudness you experience emotions that then serve as the drive to further be aggressive, to further stretch, change speed and loudness in a vicious circle that increasingly tightens.
FIERCENESS IS LARGELY YOUR STYLE, HOW YOU USE FORCE THAT IS EXCESSIVE IN WHAT YOU DO OR SAY WHILST EMOTIONS ARE THE PRODUCTS OF THAT STYLE, THE CONSCIOUSNESS’ EXPERIENCES OF THE POWER STRUGGLE OF FORCES IN YOUR MIND.
All ordinary people with style are fierce or aggressive because you need to constantly use force that is unnecessary to fabricate style and what differentiates them is that some do not disguise their fierceness whilst others’ camouflage their fierceness in their fabricated gentle style that nevertheless have discernible forceful prolonging, changing speed and loudness.
THUS FIERCENESS IS ABOUT HOW YOU USE FORCE TO DO THINGS OR YOUR STYLE AND IT GIVES RISE TO EMOTIONS THAT ARE THE INEVITABLE RESULTS OF THE POWER STRUGGLE IN YOUR MIND BECAUSE ANOTHER FORCE MUST BE SET UP TO OPPOSE IT IN THE NAME OF SELF SURVIVAL AND IN TURN YOUR EMOTIONS DRIVE YOU TO BE FIERCE, TO USE FORCE IN WHAT YOU SAY OR DO.
THUS APART FROM A PERSON'S LIKES AND DISLIKES (AND EMOTIONS THAT ARE DERIVED FROM THEM LIKE GREED, LUST, EXCITEMENT, ANGER, HATE), HIS SADNESS, FEELING HURT AND FEAR, THE PERSON ALSO POSSESS FORCEFULNESS WITH A SPECTRUM FROM FIERCENESS TO STUBBORNNESS THAT IS INDIVIDUALLY VARIABLE.
ILL WILL THAT ENCOMPASSES FIERCENESS, ATTACKING, PROVOKING, TOUGHNESS, COMBATIVENESS, ANTAGONISM AND STUBBORNESS IS ONE OF FIVE LOWER FETTERS (SELF IDENTITY VIEWS, DOUBT AND UNCERTAINTY, FAITH IN RITES AND RULES, SENSUALITY) THAT THE BUDDHA SAID DETAINED A BEING IN THE LOWER REALMS (HUMAN, ANIMAL, HELL, GHOST).
THEREFORE THERE IS ANOTHER CRUCIALLY IMPORTANT FORCE ASPECT OF A BEING APART FROM HIS EMOTIONS (LIKE, DISLIKE, HURTS, SADNESS & FEARS), NAMELY HIS FIERCENESS-ANTAGONISM-STUBBORNESS THAT DETERMINES WHETHER HE IS DETAINED HERE.
FIERCENESS, ATTACKING OR PROVOKING ANOTHER, COMBATIVENESS, BEING ANTAGONISTIC OR OPPOSING (saying A when I say B and saying B when I say A), STUBBORN OR RESISTING ARE ALL ABOUT THE SAME THING NAMELY ILL WILL AND HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH LIKING OR DISLIKING ANOTHER AND IT IS A DEFINING FEATURE OF A GOAT OR GOAT IN SHEEPSKIN NOT A TRUE SHEEP AND WILL DETAIN YOU HERE.
Ill Will:
Ill will that encompass fierceness, combativeness, antagonism, stubbornness, is one of five lower fetters (others are self identity, faith in rituals and precepts, doubt & uncertainty, sensuality) that detain beings in the lower realms (hell, animal, ghost and human) and hence it must be absent in the higher realms. The five higher fetters are ignorance, conceit, attachment to form and formless, restlessness (desire for change or being).
BEINGS IN THE LOWER REALMS ARE ALL FORCEFUL OR LIKE TO USE FORCE (TO PROLONG, CHANGE SPEED AND STRENGTH OF FORCE) OR ARE DRIVEN BY FORCE AND THIS MENTAL STATE IS NOT THE SAME AS DISLIKING OR LIKING AND GIVE RISE TO SUCH CHARACTERISTICS AS AGGRESSIVENESS, COMPETITIVENESS, ANTAGONISTIC AND STUBBORNNESS.
Worry is fearful:
When people say they worry about the future they mean they are fearful for the future and here again there are many different words that basically describe the few basic emotions like like or dislike, sadness, being hurt or fearful.
When people speak about worry they are speaking about emotion not reason. Apart from emotional suffering, worry serves no useful function. You need calm clear reason to assess clearly if a solution is at hand, by worrying you cloud your mind that may obscure the presence of a solution or delay its discovery. If there are no solutions available, no amount of worrying will do any good.
Satan tells Buddha to like:
Satan tells the Buddha to like and the Buddha refutes him. Thus if you like to like, Satan is your pal.
Nandana Sutta: Delight
Then Mara the Evil One went to the Blessed One:
Those with children delight (a form of like)because of their children.Those with cattle delightbecause of their cows.A person's delightcomes from acquisitions,since a person with no acquisitionsdoesn't delight.
[The Buddha:]
Those with children grievebecause of their children.Those with cattle grievebecause of their cows.A person's grief comes from acquisitions,A person with no acquisitions doesn't grieve.
Always bent & twisted:
The body contains many joints and usually if not always there are two opposing groups of muscles (agonists and antagonists) arranged around the joints that will move the appendage around that joint in opposite directions (flex or extend).
In this situation the most relaxed posture of any joint is when it is straight, neither bent to one side or twisted around its axis (eg turning your head around your neck or rotating your forearm inwards or outwards) because then both groups of muscles (agonists and antagonists) are not doing any work.
If you watch the appendages of people (fingers, wrists, forearms, legs, head) when they are still or moving, they are invariably bent never straight and what is bent or curved or rotated is stretched and it is therefore an instance of unconscious use of force to stretch their movements or postures.
This permanent bending or twisting of their joints requires force and use of energy, causes an imbalance in work between the opposing muscles is partly a desire of the person to express style to impress others (if you want to stand like Elvis you must prop or rotate your left shoulder and hip forwards as you stand) and partly because the tension in their minds and bodies do not permit them to adopt truly neutral stress free postures or straight joints.
IT IS MOSTLY THE INNATE TENSION IN THEIR MINDS THAT FORCES STYLISH PEOPLE TO ADOPT COMPLICATED POSTURES WITH MULTIPLE BENDING AND ROTATION OF JOINTS OF THEIR TORSO AND APPENDAGES AND IT IS PARTLY THEIR DESIRE FOR STYLE THAT CAUSES THIS. NOT TO BEND OR TWIST THEIR JOINTS IS SOMETHING THAT IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR ORDINARY PEOPLE EXCEPT IN THEIR DELUSION THEY CAN AND DO. WATCH YOUR BODY POSTURES AND JOINTS WHILST YOU ARE AT REST AND SEE IF THEY ARE NOT BENT OR ROTATED AND HOW THEY ARE STRESSFUL NOT EASEFUL.
PEOPLE WHO CANNOT KEEP THEIR JOINTS STRAIGHT DO NOT KNOW WHAT EASEFULNESS THEY ARE MISSING. THEY THINK THEY ARE ENJOYING THEMSELVES WHEN THEY ARE MASOCHISTS PUNISHING THEMSELVES WITH THEIR STYLISH TWISTED AND BENT JOINTS.
Nirvana is the ultimate eternal bliss:
Birth and death are illusions, mere transition points because after passing away all beings have a destination although most can expect perdition in one form or another after they pass away. No beings are permanently dead but they are reborn elsewhere and no beings are truly born but they arrived from a previous destination.
Even eternal life in heavenly bliss that range from one Age to 60,000 eons are not truly eternal but relatively eternal compared to your sojourn here and rather than annihilation, nirvana that the Buddha said exists is permanent release from coming and going and truly permanent eternal life in bliss that are accorded to those who have become totally pure.
Although the Buddha did not quite state it specifically, he said nirvana is not to be conjectured, if you try to conjecture about it, you will go mad, you will know when you achieve that state, he did say it involved the final giving up of individual existence and he said that in becoming the One he becomes the many, in becoming the many he becomes the One indicating that the being who attains nirvana may still exist because no being is ever destroyed, only he permanently has made an end to all coming and going.
NO MATTER HOW LONG BLISSFUL EXISTENCE IS IN HEAVEN, EVEN UP TO 60,000 EONS, IT IS AN INDIVIDUAL EXISTENCE AND NOT FINAL AND THERE IS A PASSING AWAY EVEN TO HELL DEPENDING ON WHAT YOU HAVE PREVIOUSLY DONE. A PERSON WHO IS ENLIGHTENED HAS NOTHING BY WHICH HE CAN BE BORN ANYWHERE OR PASS AWAY AND RATHER THAN BEING A STATE OF NON EXISTING IT MAY BE A STATE OF NEITHER EXISTING NOR NON EXISTING THAT IS TRULY PERMANENT BLISS. EONS MAY COME AND EONS MAY GO BUT THE ENLIGHTENED BEING IS UNCHANGED.
The Buddha: Freed from the classification of form, Vaccha, the Tathagata is deep, boundless, hard to fathom, like the sea. 'Reappears' doesn't apply. 'Does not reappear' doesn't apply. 'Both does & does not reappear' doesn't apply. 'Neither reappears nor does not reappear' doesn't apply.
"Any feeling...Any perception...Any mental fabrication...
"Any consciousness by which one describing the Tathagata would describe him: That the Tathagata has abandoned, its root destroyed, deprived of the conditions of existence, not destined for future arising. Freed from the classification of consciousness, Vaccha, the Tathagata is deep, boundless, hard to fathom, like the sea. 'Reappears' doesn't apply. 'Does not reappear' doesn't apply. 'Both does & does not reappear' doesn't apply. 'Neither reappears nor does not reappear' doesn't apply."
What the Buddha is saying above is that if you try to perceive the Buddha in terms of a physical form, feeling, perception, mental fabrication or consciousness, you are like the man trying to scoop water with a net (you will fail). He has gone totally beyond existence and is unknowable by those who still exist. It is a delusion that you do not exist after death. You will exist after death only that the destination is likely to be unpalatable unless you turn around.
People are attached to their bodies (especially females) but at best the body is still a restriction, restricting you to one location and it has its woes like hunger, disease and aging. Brahmas are attached to their formless existences but enlightened ones have returned to the source. As the Buddha said, in becoming the One he becomes the All, in becoming the All he becomes the One.
Unconjecturable
"There are these four unconjecturables.
"The Buddha-range of the Buddhas [i.e., the range of powers a Buddha develops as a result of becoming a Buddha]. If conjectured about, it would bring madness & vexation.
"The jhana-range of a person in jhana [i.e., the range of powers that one may obtain while absorbed in jhana]...
"The [precise working out of the] results of kamma...
"Conjecturing about [the origin, etc., of] the world would bring madness & vexation to the person.
A bent or twisted joint is always stressful:
When a joint is straight both opposing groups of muscles are not doing any work.
If a joint is bent, one group of muscles must work to maintain that bending whilst the other must be stretched (strained), similarly an appendage is twisted only because force is applied to keep it twisted.
WHENEVER A JOINT IS BENT, ONE GROUP OF MUSCLE MUST DO WORK AND THE OPPOSITE GROUP MUST BE STRAINED OR STRETCHED BY FORCE.
IF YOU ARE BENDING YOUR JOINTS TO TIE YOUR SHOE LACES IT IS DOING MEANINGFUL WORK BUT IF YOU ARE BENDING YOUR JOINTS TO BE STYLISH OR BECAUSE YOU ARE TENSED, YOU ARE DOING WHAT IS USELESS OR PRACTICING CONTROLLED MADNESS THAT WILL END IN UNCONTROLLED MADNESS.
THEREFORE IF IT IS NOT NECESSARY TO KEEP THE JOINT BENT OR TWISTED (IT IS NOT DOING USEFUL WORK LIKE WRITING) AND YOU DO SO BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE STYLISH OR YOU CANNOT HELP IT, YOUR TENSION CAUSES IT, YOU ARE STRESSING YOURSELF AND PRACTICING WHAT IS USELESS, FOR SHOW THAT WILL END IN MAD RESTLESSNESS.
SO IGNORE YOUR BENT AND TWISTED JOINTS IF YOU LIKE BUT YOU ARE SUFFERING UNNECESSARILY AND ONLY CONTROLLING IT AND HEADED FOR LOSS OF CONTROL AND MAD BENT RESTLESSNESS.
(When a person sits in the lotus position, his posture is gravity neutral, he does not have to do work to keep his body falling to one side as compared to the stylish man who tilts and rotates his head and body.)
JUST AS YOUR JOINTS ARE ALWAYS BENT AND TWISTED, YOUR MIND IS ALSO BENT AND TWISTED BUT YOU HAVE A PERVERSION OF PERCEPTION OF WHAT IS BENT AND TWISTED IS STRAIGHT.
Ill Will & Emotions:
Fierceness (a manifestation of ill will) is the presence of force in a person’s fabrications eg a fierce look is the piercing force in his stare, fierce way of speaking and fierce way he drove his golf ball is the palpable added force in how he speaks and does things.
Thus fierceness is all about style, about the presence of excess force that is dissipated through prolonging, changing speed and strength of force and direction where possible whenever one perceives, thinks, speaks and does things.
Emotions are the different experiences of the mind as a result of the power struggles of the force of going against self and self preservation.
WHEN THE BUDDHA SPOKE OF ILL WILL HE IS TALKING ABOUT FIERCENESS OR AGGRESSION AND WHEN HE TALKED ABOUT PASSION HE IS TALKING ABOUT EMOTIONS.
Disappointment is about being hurt:
When someone experiences disappointment it is about being hurt by what has happened. Usually he likes something and does not get it and he is disappointed or hurt.
Thus if you are a supporter of Manchester United and you scan the papers and learnt they lost, you immediately experience disappointment or hurt that because it is painful you automatically try to suppress by smiling or act as if you are happy.
Not only do people experience disappointments or being hurt frequently throughout a day as a result of their liking certain things that are dashed but they ALWAYS use force, their force of self preservation that they stir up to try to banish their disappointments but invariably some of the disappointment will seep or break through this barricade and they experience even searing pent up hurt from previous denials hurting out of proportion to what happened.
They say big boys (and girls) don’t cry and so it is that goats always hide and deny their daily hurts and every now and then it takes only a straw to break the camel’s back and they may then ‘go bonkers’ with hurt and lashing out.
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