Why Ordinary People Cannot Be Happy:

Why Ordinary People Cannot Be Happy:
Because all ordinary people act all the time and acting is forceful going against self needing constant opposing forceful self restraint to maintain a semblance of being even keeled, these stressful forces clash to create conflict; because stress and tension when frequent, become easy to arouse, rapid to rise and hard to shake off, even the resentful forceful attempts to shake off itself creates further stress) they are therefore beseiged by stress and cannot be happy or feel secure.

What people call happiness is unsatisfactory ephemeral emotional excitement or thrill that is associated with gain, associated with getting what they want (eg elected president) that in itself agitates their minds and bodies (though they call this mental and bodily agitation ‘joy’, nobody with such ‘joys’ can command their minds and bodies at will to cease these ‘joys’ so that they can go to sleep or have a rest) and creates a fear of loss (his wealth might taken from him). This ‘joy’ may temporarily distract him from the many sundry woes and insecurities that must beset him but he soon falls anxiously back to reality that despite his undoubted gains he is also the owner of woes and worries. Even such ‘joys’ get increasingly hard to come by with age because he gets increasingly hard to please and what caused him pleasure in the past may become ho hum; what pleasures he enjoys are offset or tempered by disappointments that upset him when some of his many other desires are thwarted.

Further, whenever an actor experiences a joy (eg new car), he is invariably moved to show off, to exaggerate and even fake his joy (eg he is tired but forces himself to fake his joy when another person worth showing off to arrives) thereby creating stress for himself and corrupting the joy that he might otherwise have felt. He might show off his car and feel miffed if others fail or acted as if they fail to notice. He has to stress himself in order to extol in so many words the virtues of his new car to whoever will listen or pretend to listen instead of quietly appreciating his new car himself.

Often actors are not at all happy but beset by stress and feels an irrational urge to fake happiness just to keep up with appearances or because he feels a loss of face if he people were to see his distress. He goes around with a frequent smile, whistles a chirpy tune, sways side to side with a spring in his gait to say “Hey, look how happy am I”. But this willful mind warping denial of stress by acting happy only serves to create more unnecessary stress, shame, conflict and depression that the foolish actor may further defiantly goaded to deny by intensifying his false expressions of happiness thinking he will finally prevail, he will will himself to happiness. Happiness can never be forcefully willed but happiness will only passively embrace the person who stops forcefully goes against himself, who stops falsifying.

All the happiness you see publicly eg on TV, people sporting broad gorgeous smiles or grins, animated rapid twisting and turning of their bodies accompanied arm and leg swinging or shaking are NEVER genuine but cruel fakes to mislead the gullible to emulate or they are rewarded by material success. They are always very stressful to fabricate and are driven by aggression or grit(a nice word for malice) not true happiness.

For one who is discerning, ordinary people speak and behave all the time in impatient, demanding, stabbing and explosive ways that can only ensue because they are not happy but harrassed. Even those who supposedly are gentle, speak in a gentle way are only effortfully acting so, uptight and not truly effortlessly gentle or happy.
Ordinary people can NEVER be happy because they are constant actors constantly churning up stress, conflict, restlessness threatening loss of control, violent impulses and depression. Only those who do not act can be truly happy because they are at peace with themselves and others.

THE DAILY LIVES OF ORDINARY PEOPLE ARE A GRIND, FILLED WITH STRESSFUL DEMANDS OF MEETING & BEING NICE TO OTHERS, JOB AND ROLE DEMANDS; THEY ARE HARASSED, INSECURE AND CANNOT BE HAPPY. THE ANIMATED, SMILEY HAPPINESS THAT PEOPLE EXHIBIT EVERYWHERE IS CRUEL AND STRESSFULLY FAKED IN EXAGGERATED FASHION TO DECEIVE OTHERS. AS ORDINARY PEOPLE GROW OLD, THEY BECOME MORE CYNICAL AND MORE DIFFICULT TO PLEASE AND THE EPISODES OF RELATIVE HAPPINESS BECOME FEWER AND MORE TRANSITORY. WHEN OCCASIONALLY THEY DO EXPERIENCE RELATIVE HAPPINESS, THEY ARE THEN EMOTIONALLY MOVED TO EXAGGERATE, TO ACT OUT THEIR HAPPINESS THAT BECAUSE IT CREATES STRESS AND CONFLICT DETRACT FROM THE VERY HAPPINESS THEY TRY TO FALSELY IMPRESS OTHERS.

Ordinary people fake their happiness, often in an exaggerated manner; they put on a show of being happy because others are also doing so, they want to make others envious or jealous and they want to deceive others that they are successful, mentally well adjusted and coping (when they are struggling).

You do not need to express yourself in anyway if you are happy but you need to express yourself how happy you are to show off and that may irk others who are suffering. In fact you will enjoy your happiness much better if you calmly enjoyed it without any fuss because expressing one’s joy itself is always stressful, one gets carried away finding it hard to stop, expressing happiness creates restlessness, consumes a lot of energy and are acted for the consumption of observers, never real.

How do people act happy? They put on a smile or grin on their faces and in case people have not noticed, they stressfully maintain their smiles for as long as they can bear so that others might better notice. They walk with a pronounced spring in their gait (all springs in the gait, however slight, are acted to impress others), they try to attract attention by singing, humming tunes, they tell or boast to anyone who will listen why they are besides themselves happy. Even this acting, which annoys others and the actor knows deep down is motivated, creates stress and restlessness, so how can he be happy but only faking it and stubbornly maintaining in amidst mounting stress because his big ego will not permit to admit he is prostituting himself.

Because actors are constantly bombarded by stressful acted communications and stimuli everywhere, be it at home, in a public place or an island resort and they foolishly welcome or accept these stressful acting as genuine and beneficial (or they fake as realistically as possible they accept) when they are poisonous, they cannot be happy. How can someone who is constantly seeking external stress (eg watching harsh blasting TV shows and sports, go to discos), accepting external stress (eg idle chatter, gossip) gratefully or as if he is grateful, be happy? Even to act as if he is grateful for the harsh niceness others dish to him causes stress inimical to happiness.

ONLY A MIND THAT IS CALM, CONCENTRATED, PASSIVELY FREED OF FORCEFUL EMOTIONS (ANGER, FEAR, PRIDE, SHAME, MALICE, LUST, GREED), NOT PUSHED & PULLED BY LIKES OR DISLIKES, RESIDES IN THE PRESENT (NOT DAYDREAMING) CAN EXPERIENCE HAPPINESS. ONLY A MIND THAT DOES NOT GO AGAINST ITSELF TO EXHIBIT ITSELF, TO PANDER TO OTHERS’ APPROVAL, THAT RECOGNIZES IN ITS ENTIRETY ALL ACTING AND NICENESSS AND HENCE NOT UPHOLD ACTING & NICENESS FOR HIMSELF OR OTHERS, AVOIDS OR MINIMISES CONTACT WITH ACTING CAN BE TRULY AND EFFORTLESSLY HAPPY.
WHY SHOULD YOUR BODY LISTEN TO YOU?
ORDINARY PEOPLE NEVER TRULY LISTEN TO THEIR MINDS AND BODIES, THEY OVERRULE DISTRESS THEY EXPERIENCE EG THROUGH GREED, THEY FORCE THEMSELVES TO KEEP WATCHING A STRESSFUL TV PROGRAM WHEN THEIR BODIES BESEECH THEM TO STOP BECAUSE THEY WANT TO SLEEP, WHY SHOULD YOUR BODY LISTEN TO YOU WHEN YOU THEN IMPLORE IT TO STOP THINKING, STOPPING BEING RESTLESS BECAUSE YOU WANT TO SLEEP OR REST? (WHEN YOU FORCE YOURSELF TO WATCH TV WHEN YOU ARE TIRED, YOU WILL HAVE TO WATCH IN A FORCED MANNER AND THEREFORE ACTING)
EVERYDAY, YOUR BODY IS TELLING YOU IT IS RESTLESS AND STRESSED, STOP MAKING IT STRESSED, STOP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING OR SAYING IN YOUR ACTED WAYS, BUT YOU IGNORE WHAT YOUR BODY IS TELLNG YOU TO KEEP ACTING AND KEEPING ACCEPTING ACTING FROM OTHERS. WHY SHOULD YOUR MIND LISTEN TO YOU TO GIVE YOU PEACE IN A SITUATIONAL CRISIS OR IN OLD AGE WHEN YOU ARE STRICKEN BY UNREMITTING RESTLESSNESS, VIOLENT, MAD IMPULSES AND YOU BEG FOR PEACE AND SANITY? DOES IT NOT SERVE YOU RIGHT YOU NEVER OBEYED YOUR BODY IN THE FIRST PLACE?

Actors Are Very Sensitive People:
Recently a schoolgirl in Japan viciously slashed another to death and Japan was reported to be shocked. The Japanese are not anymore wholesome as a society compared to the rest of humanity but they are a society of actors sinfully acting according to the regimented Japanese way and many people will be shocked when they find out the suffering due to them. Those who are shocked have an unrealistic or pretentious, rosy views about reality ( deluded).
If anybody watched children, they are seldom angels but can be even very nasty. Many speak in a harsh blasting manner and are aggressive, even violent.
All actors and nice people, including children are very sensitive, easily hurt and may see insult where there is none because they are stressed, tensed and ashamed of their behavior to please and impress others. They only act appreciative, grateful, easy going and affable but inside there seethes paranoia, suspiciousness, malice and barely restrained violent impulses ready to explode.
Often nice people think that what they say or do are wonderful when it is poisonously nice, is sarcastic (eg everything you say is correct when you mean not everything you say is correct) and some times it might touch the recipient’s raw nerve and he might blow up.
HOW CAN YOU BE A HAPPY PERSON WHEN YOU ARE TOUCHY, SENSITIVE? THAT ACTORS ARE TOUCHY INDICATES THEY ARE SELDOM IF EVER HAPPY OR HAPPY FOR ANY EXTENDED PERIODS OF TIME.